do not let sadness rule your heart!

sometimes in life its very easy to get down on ourselves.

we worry because we dont have this, we dont have that, we cant do this, we cant do that...

well...focus on what you *can* do, and what you *do* have.

have a positive mindset & a good attitude.

no matter what you do, you can be mind over matter,

you just have to think that way.

you can choose to be content.  you might not be happy but you can

accept the current situation for what it is, and try to be

lighthearted, even when inner sadness wants to rule your heart.

bottom line...do not let sadness rule your heart.  do & say what 

makes you contented & at peace with the world.

if you do the right thing everything else will fall into place.

above all...Believe in the power of Love to heal your wounded 

soul.  Trust!  Namaste, my friends...as the Buddhist blessing 

says, "by the power of every moment of your goodness may your 

heart's wishes be soon fulfilled."  ~Sending Love & Light,~

the dirty on college: what no one else will tell you (this ones for the ladies)

LADIES...my top tips if youre going away to college:

• bring quarters
• dont sleep with that cute guy.  youll totally regret it later & someone will probably post the video on youtube.
• dont fight with your roommate over some dude.  trust me, honey, it aint worth it.  
• that brings me to another point.  you can date in college, but dont date the crazy people.  you know what i mean...[insert crazy story here].  dont do it.  anyways, you got french class at 8am so why are you out so late anyway...?
• match dot com is a p.o.s. operation.  so is craigslist...unless youre there to buy an effing couch.  
• jdate, plentyoffish, backpage, ok cupid, christian mingle, eharmony...it can be fun but be cautious.  try to meet people irl like...twitter, facebook...the staples of social media.  reliable-like places!  LOL.  j/k.  hey if online is what works for you, more power to you.
• i swear to g*d, please just stop worrying about what everyone thinks.  no one wants to hang around a wannabe.  just do you, & you will be absolutely fine & people will love you.
• above all, be yourself & dont compromise your values & what you believe in.  
• focus on school & in the end, you will be the superstar.  i have learned that the nerdy girl always gets the hot husband.
• know when to walk away.

every woman has to draw her line in the sand.  make sure you go to college knowing who you are & what you stand for.  the friendships you make, some will last forever.  but remember that the best friend you have in this life is YOU so never lose sight of your most precious asset...yourself.  you cannot be replaced. dont do anything in college that will jeopardize your future. that being said, one last piece of advice...keep pics of you holding red sippy cups down to a minimum on facebook, hmm?  thanks.  sending love & light...moi.  

im on fire...nothing scares me anymore....

kiss me right before you go.
summertime sadness.
i just wanted you to know...
that, Baby youre the best...

some things you have to believe: true love & other adventures in reality.

maybe you thought true love would never happen to you.

but, love always gets the best of us.

right when you least expect it, it happens.

many waters cannot quench the fires of love burning within you.

many loves cannot wash it away.

the only thing that remains is your one true love,

the one that only truly ever loved you.

all talking will cease,

yes, everything will be silent,

in the moment youre finally with your true love.

words will fail to describe,

language will fail you...

nor will spoken language be necessary,

in the day of your power,

in the night of determination,

ecstasy in exultation.

we're beautiful like diamonds in the sky: your inner & outer beauty.

the gods have gifted you with an enormous beauty, and the potential to change the world for the better.

let your light shine from within, and you will inspire others beyond anything you can imagine or conceive. 

like diamonds in the sky is your inner beauty, my dove...

your outer beauty is temporary, but however you were created, that too is beautiful, no matter what anyone says about you.

inside you have something more precious than diamonds, more valuable than rubies, the sapphires are in your eyes.

shine bright like a diamond, and you will show the world your excellence on the night of determination.

the difference between sucks & success: getting more online & foot traffic.

many of the best entrepreneurs out there did not start out on top.  they had to work their way from the bottom up, and move their way up the ladder.

similarly, you shouldnt get discouraged if you dont have the pageviews or traffic youre trying to get on your website, or if your storefront business (online or offline) is suffering dire economic times.

you have to think creatively.  i was watching the other day a show called "god, guns, & automobiles," where car salesman Mark Muller got the idea of doing a UFO-themed car sale to get people interested in coming in and looking at cars.  he inflated a huge silver flying saucer balloon, created a crop circle UFO landing spot on land in the back of his property that he didnt even own, and created a UFO video for a commercial that used a simple toy flying in the sky which was lighted at night.  the icing on the cake was buying a 1920s Ford pickup truck, totally restored, so he could put it on display in his shop

what i thought was unique in these actions are elements that entrepreneurs can put into place in their own businesses in order to attract business.

the first order of business:  have a unique idea that will attract people to your product or service.  in showbiz, we call that having a gimmick.  you have got to figure out what your gimmick or angle is.  do something that few people, if anyone, does or has done before.  i always jokingly say that whoever is the first to offer same day wifi installation is going to be able to corner the market on such a service! LOL.  for example.  

the second order of business:  display something unique that will get people talking about either, your twitter page, facebook page, or other aspect about your business.  it could be controversial, artsy, whatever.  just get the buzz going on the internet.  mix things up a bit.  you know what they say, no publicity is bad publicity (well, almost).

the third order of business:  be enthusiastic about what you do.
love what you do and all that you want--money, fame, recognition--will all follow.

that, my friends, is the difference between sucks and success.

i dreamed of a love i could have so pure...

i dreamed of a love i could have so pure
but i never dreamed you would be at the end of the rainbow.
i dreamed about you before i was born,
not knowing when or how.
when i was in my mothers womb,
before i even had a thought you were there.
the gods wrote it on the scrolls that one day we would meet,
& indeed, we did.
love & care
await us
and we will 
overcome the power of the tomb.
not even death shall separate our love,
not if the gods themselves try from above.

i dreamed of a love i could have so pure
sweet & strong, kind & sure.
gentle as a summer breeze
that bends the branches of the trees.

hot like fire, warm like night
like alabaster, pure & white
my midnight sun, dark & bright
my brave soldier, fights the fight

i dreamed of a love i could have so pure
now its here, real & sure
i wont have to worry any more
about the things that came before.

you taught me how to love again,
look at the world with newborn eyes
though ye be a god among all men
your love still sanctifies.

i dreamed of a love i could have so pure
& youre strong & steady, loving, sure
a thousand others fell aside, as countless others do
but what i am most sure about 
is that i wont stop loving you.

till my last breath,
till day has past
till early mornings dew
arise, my dark fair
your love is there
& i am here for you.

i dreamed of a love i could have so pure,
i felt it pure & sweet,
you became my ev'rything in life,
you made it so complete.

i dreamed of a love i could have so pure,
please never let it end,
i dreamed of a love i could have so pure,
my lover, my best friend.

you have too much at stake: why its important to maintain your good name pt i

i believe i will have many more posts on this topic in the future (thats why i named it pt i).  i will keep this one short & simple.

do not do anything that would jeopardize your good name or harm your image.  

you have an image to maintain; you were also made in the image of the gods, do not insult them by being any less of the wonderful person that you were born to be.

self actualize...make sure you reach your fullest potential in life by having high standards for yourself and others.

never stop trying.  do not give up, do not give in, never settle for "not perfect, just done"...in essence, never settle.  but be at peace with it, whatever your decisions may be.

dont have regrets, & resolve yourself not to do anything that will cause you to have regrets later on.  this is your bukkido code, ok.  and while im at it...again, dont let anyone ruin your karmic chi!  trust!  peace, and namaste.

why you shouldnt worry &/or stress out: 10 second koan pt ii

this is not a long post ok, but it was put upon my heart to say what ive gotta say here, i think it is important & i hope you would agree.  a lot of people i know...including myself...seem to have a lot on our minds these days.  so i write this not just for you, dear readers, but kind of as a little note to self mental note/reminder.  and here it is.

stress deprives you of your ability to think straight.  it takes from you energy you need to focus on other things in life.

you should not have to worry in life; i will tell you why.

all the things you are worrying about are just that:  things.  they are temporary.

it is people & their precious spirits which can never be replaced, so focus on helping people, kindness, & being good to others.  love others & your life will be complete.

this is why you dont need to worry &/or stress out as much as you have been doing lately.  it will all work out for the best.  trust!  love, peace, & blessings...

learning how to calm your mind in a turbulent world: 10 second koan pt i

few people have time to meditate, or even have time alone/silence for themselves...and i get it, we are busy people.  from cell phones, computers, the internet, youtube, netflix, hulu, & on & on & on, there are a ton of things that can distract us & remove us from our peace of mind.  these things can remove us from peace.

how do we find that inner peace?  here is your 10 second koan for today...

no need to meditate for a half hour, do yoga for an hour, chant for 3 hours...

you can have instant karma, right here, right now.

today, resolve to be a better you.  that is your koan, now go...you are free to invent your day newer & better than the last one.

dont wait...start now.  this is something you can apply to your life immediately & you dont have to do anything too crazy.  start with saying something like, i am not going to worry about xyz anymore today.  i am taking a worry free holiday from xyz issue.  permit yourself to worry like one minute, and after that, put it out of your mind.  you cant stop what is going to happen from happening, so just resolve that you are going to stop worrying about the future.

do it...you will be so much happier with yourself.  trust! peace.

you are too precious not to be exclusive: building your brand pt i

ok, so...admittedly i am not an *expert* about building your brand.  *however*...that being said, i do have some tips.  here they are, i will just dive in! :)

• produce quality content.  how many times have you heard this one.  i know right.  but, it is true...what you put in, you will get out of it.  if you dont put in the work, you are not going to see the results or fruit of your labor, hard work, & effort.  but, making sure that you bring value added content to a conversation that is much bigger than you or i alone or even you & i combined together.  the internet is full of so much useless stuff & junk, *dont* be sucked in.  you *want* to make your work worth noticing.
• be the master of your domain.  yes, you have got to be the boss, and be boss looking about it in the process.  i am not saying you have to drive a Jaguar.  but, you have to be confident.  no one wants to support someone & invest in someone who is not sure of themselves...unless youre like a parent to a 2 year old.  come on man, it is so last year to have no self confidence.  its not cute to be unsure & wandering spirit right now.  know your power & own it.  truly.
• be exclusive (somewhat).  you know, you cant please everybody.  so, in that vein...you have to find your niche in the market.  part of building your brand means to make people sit up & look what you are talking about.  either they are saying something unique or doing something different that is getting peoples attention.  self immolation?  perhaps that might be going too far.  but getting a fake dog princess tattoo on your arm & then posting it on your twitpic is sure to get you noticed.  you just have to have ideas about *how* you want to be noticed.  keep that in mind.  your cat might not be so fond of that tattoo now, come to think of it...i am *not* saying go out & get some random tattoo.  i *am* saying, do what you have to do to get yourself noticed...within reason.  standing naked by the side of the road notwithstanding.  you dont want to get yourself in trouble.  but, a little tempest in the teapot might be just the push over the edge other people need to help you get recognized & zing your brand.

these are just a few preliminary ideas, but i am sure i will have more where those came from about building your brand.  learn from the master!  a.k.a. "notme" LOL.  peace.

you, me, & Oscar Wilde: the writers guide to recognizing your saints pt i

not to name drop here, but i have a lot of famous friends.

Oscar Wilde is one of my favorites though.  he & i have a soul connection of some type.  i have his dandy bohemian style of living even though im verging on broke.

Frida Kahlo is my alter ego.  shes colorful, funny...& she inspires me as an artist.

Franz Kafka helps me with my metamorphosis every day.  i put on my makeup, i swear to god he is right there in the mirror staring me down.

Marcel Proust mocks me while im singing in the shower. hes a bit of a romantic though, i must say.  as is evident in his book Recherche du Temps Perdu...also known as Remembrance of Things Past or In Search of Lost Time.  fyi.  but seriously, Swanns Way rocks.  ive never read it, but i damn sure hope he gets the girl in the end.

the ghost of Rudolph Valentino guards (haunts?) me.  he is one of my guardian angels & patron saints of the arts.

i dont know why, but i have always felt a strong connection to Virginia Woolf.  i know thats not a particularly promising sign, especially since she committed suicide by drowning herself in the river.  perhaps thats why im inimitably & unusually frightened by being in or on water.  

i am not saying i totally believe in past lives...but yes i believe in reincarnation to some extent, i guess!  i mean, there is no other good explanation for why i feel a strong connection when i read some peoples writing, etc.

i also know what Anais Nin & Ayn Rand were going through.  they had some pretty turbulent times.  but...all told they were pretty fantastically fascinating women for their own respective times.  i am not saying i would totally pattern my entire lives after them or anything.  but.

just to let you know, these are some thinkers who have drastically shaped my views on life, love, & literature.

i cant fail to mention James Joyce here, either.  he is from the same town in Ireland that my family is from in County Cork...Fermoy.  i like to think that we are somehow related, if not by blood then by sheer proximity of our blood having lived in the same village.

its interesting what can inspire you...sometimes it comes from the most unusual and unexpected places.

so, take it for what you will.  namaste! :)  

take care of yourself. you will be so much better off: clean living pt i

a lot of people do not believe in clean living.  maybe you would like to start.  for you, it could be something as simple as shedding a few unwanted pounds, or maybe more drastic...such as kicking that nasty coke habit.  whatever it is, ok...i am not judging you. nor am i here to stand in a place of judgment and tell you what to do with your life.  you have to do with your life what you see fit, ok...

that being said, lets be honest...no one is perfect, yada yada yada.  i would be lying if i said i was.  but you have to realize that you are so much better than whatever bad habit it is that you are coddling every day that you want to stop.  i mean, it might be a big deal it might not be.  it might be something that is on the verge of ruining your life & you just need a wake up call.

your wake up call has arrived, brother.  get off the junk.  it is *not* going to help you in the long run.  whatever it is that is bringing you down...seriously?  leave it behind.  go cold turkey & do *not* look back.  life is too short to be going thru it messed up.  a lot of people dont like to broach the topic, but yes...drugs, whatever.  drinking, smoking, lack of exercise, lack of sleep, addictions... whatever is crimping your style, that is what you must purge from yourself and distance yourself from.  say to yourself, you know what...that thing...whatever it is...that is not who i am anymore. 

just set it aside, let it be, & realize that whatever that *thing* is, does not own you anymore & cannot control you.  you control your own self, you are the author & finisher of your own destiny.  you control your fate, no one else...not even god can write your destiny.  your destiny is written in the stars by you. dont let some problem dictate your life.  you only have one life, so make the most of it.

resolve today that you will lead a cleaner life today.  even if its just by doing one small thing to switch up your normal routine, you will have improved your life that much more.  seek to continually improve, and excellence will begin to be a hallmark of your life.  like Aristotle was wont to say, excellence is not an event, it is a habit.  get in the habit of creating good habits in life & eventually others will look towards you as a source of guidance in life, love, faith, health, & happiness.

believe in yourself that you can do it.  start today!  blessings.

dont let people ruin your karmic chi...seriously: karmic chi pt i

you are going to think this is total b.s.  *but*...you must learn how to protect your karmic chi & not let people who are energy vampires take your energy.  how do you do this?  i will give you a few tips:

• dont engage with negative people.  being around &/or engaging with negative people will only give you negative vibes.  did you know its actually been scientifically proven that negative energy kills living cells?  therefore, negative people are literally killing you...cell by cell by cell by cell by cell.  dont be that guy.  you are going to be so much better off if you do not let other peoples energy control your karmic chi force field.  so...again, dont be around those who are, for whatever reasons, either overtly or covertly negative.
• be careful who you you allow into your inner circle.  hey, this is the internet.  you dont *know* these people!!!  its always good to be on your guard. et tu, Brutus, et tu indeed.
• cut ties with toxic friends.  drama, drama, and mo' drama is only going to absolutely ruin your life.  you dont need it...or them...so skate.  and dont look back, either.
• learn how to relax.  the mind free of worry is a blessed state.  why do you think buddhist monks spend their entire lives devoted to meditation & prayer living up in the mountains in a secluded monastery in the middle of beautiful nature?  because they decided they *didnt* want to be at that 3pm app dev meeting where you know your boss is going to be going on and on forever for hours about nothing in particular...then turn to you and ask...but i dont know, what is *your* opinion?  at which point you have to pretend like you actually care.  
• do something, & love doing it.  so many people, i swear to god, just have a penchant for the sadomasochistic b.s. *need* for having and/or maintaining a job they absolutely hate.  i for one will never understand this.  if you hate your job so much...why do it?  life is way too short to just be stuck on paying some bills till you die.  yes pay the bills, but find a way to let your passion roam free in terms of doing what you *really* want to do for a job.  you cannot always please other people.  will your mom be happy youre a yoga teacher making 8 dollars an hour versus a $56K computer programmer?  perhaps not, but then again, you have to live with yourself for the rest of *your* natural life...not your parents or anyone else.  so you have to make the choices that make *you* happy personally.  

i hope these tips give you some sense of direction.  the bottom line is, dont let people ruin your karmic chi.  i have a lot more to say on this topic, but this will suffice for now dear readers.  i want you to be able to learn from what i have found to be true & hopefully it will help you somehow, even if its in a small way.  as the buddhist blessing says, "by the power of every moment of your goodness may your heart's wishes be soon fulfilled."  wishing you be blessed, no stress, & lots of happiness...love.  

we found love in a hopeless place...yes, this post is dedicated to you.

i hope this is the first post you see on my new blog today, ok, so...i will try & leave this one at the top for awhile.  

so...someone recently revolutionized my life...suffice it to say, you know who you are :)

i realized that so much in this life is fleeting & temporary & that true love is the only thing that lasts.  and...its the only thing that matters...in the end, anyway.  all that other stuff is details.

so anyway...i just wanted to say...you have changed my life for the better.  i wish i had the words.  more words, better words.  the right words.  sometimes there are no words.  for this love i feel...youve infused my life with new meaning & passion for living.

i thought i really loved life, but now i really love life genuinely, because you are a part of it.  i just wanted to say that.  so..."yes i said it, there it is" LOL.

coffee, black, & Kerouac.

i always wanted to explode like a roman candle.  do it really  big & bright.  live large.  well, now that im at the point where i can handle it, i am going to live my life to the fullest till my last breath.  

thoroughly enjoying my morning joe.  makes you wonder how many other people...even on a day like today...are slogging away at some desk somewhere trying to make ends meet, thinking that is the only way to live.  life is a feast & most people are starving.

some people dont really know how to live, though.  theres that too.  a lot of close minded thinking is what really shackles some people...imprisons their minds forever.  we cant afford to keep ourselves shut inside our own little prisons.

one day Jack Kerouac woke up to rave reviews of his book On the Road and it was instant fame; he was the new voice of the Beat generation.  JK Rowling was a struggling single mom with a barely heated apartment scrawling her ideas for a book called The Philosophers Stone on napkins in a little cafe in the UK; she later went on to write the blockbuster series Harry Potter.

like these other writers, i hope to make it big one day & majorly blow up.  i am thinking it could be just a matter of time.  dear readers, we shall see...we shall see indeed.  "peace" LOL.

water flows into the tub. its you, your bubbly in a champagne flute, & some bubble bath...

so...you waited for this moment for like a really long time.  12 long stemmed red roses sitting on a vase by the edge of the tub.  you look at your legs, smooth like the hide of a tigress.  romancing yourself is something youve taken to & could get used to, you think.  purple lavender bath beads notwithstanding.  but...something (actually someone) is missing.  you know who it is, youve been thinking about your relationship & what direction it is going in.  suddenly you jump out of the tub and dry yourself off with the towel, and...in a mad dash to run to your laptop & write it all down...you slip and fall, collapsing to the floor in a pile of naked beauty.  luckily you dont have a bad gash on your head or anything, but youve been nicked on the chin, a small cut.  when you wake up, hes holding an ice pack on your chin & wiping the tears away, kissing (what has recently become) your somewhat markedly fatter lower lip due to the fall.  he kisses it softly & sensually, making you think you should fall more often.  but...as it turns out, the only thing youve fallen is in love & now you know this is going to be a forever thing...

if you dare, come a little closer...and why youre so intense. yes i said it.

...till you are right in my face.  yup, thats right, i said it.  most people cant take my intensity.  i dont know if anyone has ever called you "too intense," but yes.  its sort of like a backhanded compliment.  on one hand...its great that you feel things so deeply, youre an artist, an entrepreneur, whatever.  but on the other hand, you are always so "on" that other people cant believe youre real.  a freak of nature, you talk fast, walk fast, do everything fast.  you live quickly and get in & out of situations fluidly, like water.  always in flux.  youre in a constant state of movement, youre like the air...the wind.  you move out & about & you dont know how you get there or why you did it.  all you know is...you...just...did.  sometimes you even amaze yourself.  those are the special moments you have to just treasure.

dont be too smart for your own good: the importance of humility, being thankful, & gratefulness

dont think you are too smart to have all the answers.  wit, brilliance, intelligence, potential, motivation, desire, & drive are all important.  but being humble about your brilliance is also an important part of being successful.  you always see people at the Oscars so thankful for winning the Academy Award that they never forget to thank the little people.  you know.  all the usual suspects...starting with God and going all the way on down the line down to the very last person who worked on the movie with them.  thankfulness & gratefulness for everything you have earned on the journey is like a major deal.  so, dont forget to say thank you once in awhile (in fact, often)...and no one will ever forget your name, who you are, or what you stand for.  because, that is honorable, and having dignity & class never goes out of style, no matter what fashions are on the runway in Milan that summer.  i speak the truth. 

the connection between wit, intellectual lazyness, & dissociative fugue: make your daydreaming work for you with major payoffs (and payouts)

i know a lot of you out there are daydreamers, entrepreneurs, etc.  when i was talking about lazyness earlier...i mean, i was talking about intellectual lazyness.  least common denominator thinking.  whats the bottom line here.  smart people want to cut through the b.s. & cut to the chase.  thats the way it always has been, always will be.  so what is my point in saying this, you ask.  there is a connection, believe it or not, between:  your sagacious wit; your intellectual lazyness; and the dissociative fugue you find yourself falling into on a boring day at the office, whatever.  you have to make your daydreaming work for *you*.  no one is going to promote you, love you, or build you up...necessarily.  you have to be self made these days.  look at all the greatest entrepreneurs...Jobs Gates Bazos.  they didnt wait for anybody or anything.  they believed in their dreams and made it happen.  you cant wait till tomorrow to be amazing, you have to be awesome & be your best you *today*.  seriously, dont wait.  your paydays (& payoffs) are waiting in the wings if you just focus on your social media marketing, social networking, branding, & business plan.  now youre saying wait i dont have a business plan.  guess what, time to write one my friend.  you are not doing yourself or anyone else a favor by sitting around on your duff just daydreaming without *action*.  daydreaming is ok once in awhile but then sometimes you have to put your plans into action and actually do, not just say.  actions speak louder than words.  once you act on your ambition, you will become most fulfilled in this life.  all that time you are in a daydream state, consciously dissociating from your job & going into a positively constructive fugue...you are actually thinking about the future, is what you are doing.  a lot of people *think* these things, but they would actually never say it because they are too scared to do so.  use your wit & the world will worship you for it.  luckily though...by the time it gets to that point, you will be so grounded you will have your head screwed on straight.  becoming a dot com millionaire wont come overnight but it will happen if you work at it & work on it.  eventually the internet makes us all famous for something.  make your fame worth remembering.  give people something to talk about.  pretty soon you will be offended when people are not talking about you, even if its just idle gossip.  feed the rumor mill.  post anything.  say anything.  be bold.  be wild.  be creative.  free your mind.  free yourself.  unburden yourself with the cumbersome problems of this world. yes, i am saying, dump your problems.  leave the drama, the negativity, & the crappy job behind if you can help it once youve got yours.  expect only the best out of life.  not only will your life thank you for it, but...you will love your life and your life will love you back.  promise.  :) 

carpe diem & memento mori: pt ii

carpe diem is an old Latin phrase meaning "seize the day"...im sure youve heard of it.  it means to use every minute wisely in pursuit of your dreams because you might not have even the next second.  my encouragement for you today is to do all those things that you wanted to do yesterday but didnt...eat right, exercise, sleep well, etc.  yes, life is too short.  that brings me to memento mori.  what is that you ask.  well, in Roman times, slaves used to follow their rich masters reminding them "memento mori," like, basically saying...you are going to die someday dude.  in essence.  what i get out of this is that we have to live our lives remembering we are leaving a legacy.  our day to day existence is not just some accident, we are here for a purpose.  ok enough said, i will make my exit now...

late night/early morning confessional: things i shouldnt admit, not even on the internet

i dont know about you, but if you are anything like me, you are a total procrastinator.  and yes (sigh)...dare i say it?  maybe even a little bit lazy.  or, ok, a lot lazy.  but no, its cool.  i mean, the path of least resistance?  i am taking it because i dont have time to deal with peoples drama and negativity.  it just so happens that being a writer is, i feel, what was meant to be my calling.  if that means i get to sit in my pajamas all day, indecently clad, half clothed, or no clothes at all...i am totally cool with that.  its a lifestyle i can live with, and it suits me.  i will just be honest...i dont want to go into an office everyday if i can possibly help it.  no boss to answer to, no phones to answer, no b.s. office drama...i can deal with that.  what i cant deal with is some scrooge boss making demands on my time all day expecting me to work for Rs 12...whats that...20 cents an hour...all the while making that guy rich while i do all the hard work.  id rather go it on my own & work for myself instead of being privy to the whims of a supervisor that i absolutely couldnt stand.  so, hopefully you love the work you do & the people you work with and for (if any).  that, my friend, makes all the difference in the world.  trust me.  

what you should do with your life: if youve been wondering

this is a short dissertation about what you should do with your life, ok.  maybe youve been having doubts about something in your mind.  maybe you want to start your own business, travel abroad, write that book you always wanted to write & get it published...whatever.  i get it, you have goals.  ambitions in life.  maybe more than the average Joe on the street.  perhaps you are more exceptional than your peers, who spend their time wasting it on frivolous things that you sometimes indulge in yourself but, in the back of your mind youre thinking...this is not in my long term plans.  its ok.  dont beat yourself up about it.  everyone goes through phases in life.  that being said...you have to be able to plan out some type of road map for your future.  if you want to ramp up your game on social media, become a better blogger, learn more about branding & marketing...do it.  do it now or do it soon.  i find more and more in my own life that i have less & less time to waste doing useless junk.  productivity is now one of my mantras because value is in such short supply today.  when people are posting about tech issues that will probably be irrelevant 2 months from now, you could be working on bigger issues...deeper issues.  how to solve the big ones.  poverty.  child hunger.  water shortages.  well maybe you dont have to tackle all of these today.  maybe not even tomorrow, or ever.  but the point that you think about these issues Matters with a capital M.  since you are a deep thinker you have to think beyond the scope of your own dreams & ambitions & also think about what you can do with your capital after you have made your own dreams become a reality with your entrepreneurship.  of course, you will have everything you want in life if you do what you know must be done.  the true test is being able to give back to causes you truly believe in once you get the chance.  not that anyone will necessarily ever be able to pay you back, per se.  but you will get it all back in karma dollars, and...not to sound cliche, but virtue is indeed its own reward.  ok sermon over! LOL. 

dont live your life without love: experiments in reality

some people exist, but they never really live.  life is something you must experience...and do so with a dogged vengeance, a determination to achieve your dreams relentlessly without overthinking everything.  but at the same time, you need to put your mind into overdrive envisioning your plans.  a lot of people dont ever really self-actualize.  they sit in a cubicle their whole lives and play it safe...measuring themselves and their self worth by how high their salary is, how big their car is, what kind of house they own, what kind of neighborhood they live in, how many kids they have, who they are with, what their favorite hobbies are, or where they went to school.  all of these things can be positive...but that kind of thing is not the right focus in life.  i would rather be poor & have my love & happiness with my special someone a million times over and against being some miserable rich person with no concept of what it means to be in a real & loving relationship that will stand the test of time.  perhaps that is a revolutionary concept.  if so, does that make me revolutionary?  in this day and age...yes.  so many people get stuck on the absolute wrong things and focus on their careers, jobs, kids, & civic minded commitments when they really lack love & a lasting love relationship.  people fill their lives with everything else besides love because that is the void that is inside their hearts & its like a black hole that will never be filled...instead all these other activities will consume their every thought & breath, having wanton disregard for what really matters in this life, & what will last forever, even after death...love.  so...make sure you put a priority on love in your life, because in the end, love is the only thing that lasts.  why because everything else eventually turns to dust. 

carpe diem & memento mori: pt i

life is too short to always ponder the what ifs.  better to make your dreams a reality so you remove all doubt.  do everything you ever wanted because you only live once.  trust me, this it it.  there are no second chances.  this is your chance, so just do it.  at least then you can live (and die) knowing you made the most out of whatever time you had & lived life to its fullest.  

coffee, cigarettes, sleepless nights, & no regrets.

sometimes those nights when i cant sleep are when i have the greatest philosophical conversations.  you know what im talking about...you have a nice white oversize mug of coffee, your deliciously smokey menthol light (cuz thats your favorite) perched between your index and third finger, like gangsta style...the way the French do it, you know.  and meanwhile your cigarette dangles precariously between your fingers while your thin, delicate wrist veers off at an incredibly sexy angle, the flash of the inside of your wrist enough to make someone drive off the road, just like a geisha temptress.  youre talking for hours on end & realize that some people never say what they truly mean, mean what they truly say, or ever want to say what they truly feel.  and even then they are still sometimes even disingenuous or deceitful about how they really feel inside.  no one can really teach you certain things in life...they are learned experiences.  but...i wouldnt give up my life experiences for anything.  the good, the bad, the ugly...i would do it all over again in a second.  no regrets.  its the only way to live.  

first post: the appetizer

writing is a discipline not unlike exercise.  you have to do it everyday in order to improve.  so...ive decided to break the silence.  here i am going to tell you whatever is on my mind at the moment, what i think you should know, what you need to know...let you inside my mind.  and maybe also let you in on some of my artistic literary stylings.  so...sit back...relax...get some coffee or your favorite red wine...and enjoy the experience of the zen cafe.  bon appetit :)